I don't? Lets Try I do... seriously

I recently read an article in the June 21 2010’s issue of Newsweek, the Article was titled “ ‘I Don’t’ The Case against Marriage” by Jessica Bennett and Jesse Ellison. The article was the writers’ views of marriage and how it was outdated. Curious, I decided to read it.


Now I think I have been spending too much time with Constitutional Crusader, but after reading the article (and picking it apart as I went along, mainly picking that up from my fiancé), I am, needless to say, not impressed  by the poorly executed article.

First off, They, the writers, did NOT cite any sources for their ‘facts’ or any studies they quoted from. I don’t know about you, but I know that had I written an essay or something like that article in college, I would have gotten it back with red marks (oh no the dreaded red marks that make kids think they did something bad) all over it, asking where my sources were and no matter how great the essay was, or how thought provoking, no sources, no A, simple as that.

Second, I know this is probably asking too much of Newsweek and their writers, but a little Objective Journalism? It couldn’t hurt? Why not make a case FOR Marriage? The Sanctity of Marriage even? Could it harm anyone? I, personally, don’t think so, but then again I’m one of the conservative know-nothings.

Third, I wish they could have listed all the facts, not just the ones that made Marriage to be the “bad Guy”, for example

“In 2010 we know most spousal rights can be easily established outside the law, and that Americans are cohabiting, happily, in record numbers. We have our own health care and 401(k)s and no longer need a marriage license to visit our partners in the hospital.”

Okay No License, okay you can visit them in the hospital. But what about calling the shots when they can’t speak for themselves? What about if they are in a coma, can you tell the doctors what to do for their health? Unless they have a written Medical Power of Attorney, they wouldn’t be treated like a spouse.

What about, like in the State of California, if you’re not married and your partner dies, unless you are married, the surviving partner doesn’t have access to any pensions or Social Security Monies that your deceased partner may have had.

“So when conservatives argue that same-sex couples are going to “destroy” the “sanctity” of marriage, we wonder, wait, didn’t we already do that? “Social science tells us fundamentally that this system is not working,” says Curtis Bergstrand, a sociologist at Bellarmine University in Louisville, KY, who has written on marriage.”

If given enough time, we can destroy anything. But Marriage is one of the world’s oldest institutions and it has survived centuries, yes it has changed with new generations growing and changing with human civilization. But again, that’s human nature. We can destroy, but then again we can create too.

“Gone are the days of the nuclear nest; in its wake is a motley mix of single parents, same-sex couples, and yes, unmarried monogamists. Anthropologist Helen Fisher, who studies the nature of love, might say that it’s a symptom of our biology: She believes humans aren’t meant to be together forever, but in short-term, monogamous relationships of three or four years. For us, it’s not that we reject monogamy altogether – indeed, one of us is going on six years with a partner – but that the idea of Marriage has become so tainted, and simultaneously so idealized, that we are hesitant to engage in it”

How does that explain relationships that have lasted several decades? What about those couples that celebrate their Golden Anniversaries? That’s definitely not “short term”. And I don’t think it’s that Humans aren’t meant to be together forever, but the decline of the emphasis placed on Religion in the public square by the courts that has resulted in the decline of marriage.

And speaking of Nature, let’s look at what monogamous animals there are. First one I can think of are Wolves. Then there are squirrels. There are several other animals out there that are Monogamous, I just can’t think of them at the moment. If it exists in nature, and humans learn from what they see, how hard is it to believe that humans can be monogamous? I mean seriously?

In my opinion, there are three people in a marriage, you, your spouse and God, hence your marriage vows. The article keeps mentioning that we’ve got less religion this and less religion that, okay, that may be one of the problems, don’t you think?

“One study even claims that the simple act of getting married creates seven more hours of housework each week for the woman”

I thought times have changed and the men and women share the chores now? I know, growing up, my parents shared the chores. I saw my Dad cooking more often than I saw my mom cooking, but then my mom worked days and my dad nights. And now, I share chores with my fiancé. How about in your own households? My dad was there for me growing up, but then again the article mentioned that marriage was to get men to take responsibility for their offspring.  So now marriage is a trap? How convenient. Have these writers even been married?

“Committing to one person forever is a long time” says Helen Fisher. “I wonder how many people really think about that”

Gee, I didn’t know forever was a really long time!... thanks for setting me straight Helen. I couldn’t have guessed it on my own. Seriously? I’m pretty sure most of those people who are inviting you to their weddings have thought about that question, hence why they are walking down the aisle. I know I’ve thought about it, and when I think of the future and guess who I see at my side… my fiancé.

The article, in my opinion is nothing but three pages of wasted space. It cries wolf at everything they think is wrong with the institution of marriage because some humans are too stupid to remain in a relationship long enough to justify marrying. It insults those people who have been in a marriage longer than 10 years and makes children of parents who stayed married for years feel like something was wrong with them because they didn’t have two houses that they lived in, or weekends with dad and his new wife. It fails to take in account marriages that ended in the loss of a partner because of death, but seems to include it in their statistics for the amount of times a person in Texas is married. They make those of us who believe in finding our soul mates sound like we’re looking for our next junkie fix. The writers make it sound like romance has no place in the intellectual household. “Waiting for Marriage” is sacrilege to these writers, after all, why marry at all?

Marriage only works when both partners make it work, if one person gives up, then the marriage has no where to go.

Tell me why should we take advice from someone who, in all likelihood, never said “I do”? Would you take sexual advice from a virgin?

Drunks Scare Me

Last Wednesday I came to the Library to return and check out some books. I was waiting outside for Rich to come pick me up so we could go to our weekly session of Greek Game. I was browsing though a book and some guy came up to me and said I was Beautiful. I thanked him, being kind and all, he then said my book was beautiful as well. That kinda creeped me out, but I said thank you and went back to reading, hoping he'd take the hint and move along. 

He didn't.

He sat down on the same bench I was, rattling about something. I smiled and nodded, like the old adage says. He then leaned over and asked if I would stand up. I answered No. He said he wanted to give me a hug. Again I said no. He then stood up and tried to get a girl walking into the library to come over to him. She gave him a look that said hell no and went into the library. I tried to concentrate on my book, but I did smell the scent of alcohol come from him when he sat down again.

He muttered something and then leaned over again to ask me if he could KISS ME. I responded with "I Don't think my Fiancé would appreciate it." He blinked "W-What?" I repeated myself and he then apologized several times. I told him it was okay, hoping he'd get the hint and leave me alone. He didn't for the second time he asked if I'd stand up so he could give me a hug. I declined again, praying for Richard to get there soon. I was tempted to go back into the Library, but I was afraid he'd try to hug me when I stood up. 

His friends finally came up and I swear, he was about to start a fist fight right there. I was also wishing I had brought my cell phone with me, so I could have called the police or something. Rich finally drove up and I was able to get away from the drunk. 

It scared me to no end that night.

Greek Game

Well it's been a while since I've updated about Greek Game.

Since I've last updated, 7 new players have been added and added to the 3 that were already on board, that's 10.... The biggest Greek Game I've ever witnessed. I'm not so sure about some of them, two of the new adds were actually bringing their characters back from the previous games. And last week, Greg (who is an oldie) Finally was able to join us.

I came from that session with a wow. It was unbelievable on how much the absence of one guy can effect game. It didn't seem right till he joined us and I am glad he has.

Two Years - Dreams and Reality

Two years ago, I was thought today was going to be my wedding day. The 9th of may in 2008, my wonderful boyfriend proposed to me. during the next couple of weeks, we chose May 22nd 2010 to be our wedding day. only then I didn't know what was ahead of me. I didn't know I would lose my father later that year to cancer and a heart attack, nor did I know that we'd lose the house and have to move. I didn't know I'd lose my job either.

I also didn't know that I'd loose two of my pets. February of 2009, We had to put down Snoopy, my cat, then two days ago, we lost my lab of 14 years.

if someone told me that I'd suffer all that loss in the span of 2 years, and that I wouldn't be celebrating my wedding today, I would have laughed in their faces.

Hopefully one day in the next couple of years, I will be writing and telling everyone that I and Rich will be getting married. but alas, today wasn't to be the day

We Stand With Arizona, and Against Illegal Immigration - Petition - Sign this petition here - Signature page - GoPetition

We Stand With Arizona, and Against Illegal Immigration - Petition - Sign this petition here - Signature page - GoPetition

I guess the constitution is "Guidelines?"

I was on Face book earlier and came across a friend who had posted a news article from Salon.com.

it was on the recent immigration bill signed into law by the Gov. of Arizona. She called it unconsitutional among other things so I asked, why was it so wrong for a state to protect their borders and their people? before going to read the whole story.

And I read the article. it's here if you wish to read it.

the one glaring problem I saw was that Illegal immigrants were considered citizens by the writer of the article.
Do they even check their facts anymore?

Amendment 14

Section 1: All persons born or Naturalized in the United States, and are subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

well if that's the law, how are Illegals protected under the Constitution?  Did we hand out green cards as these guys that are hopping the fence to get here? did the writer of the article forget this amendment also?

Amendment 10

The powers not delegated to the Untied States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States, are reserved to the States respectively, or to the people.

So are these just guidelines to follow when it's benifitical for EVERYONE?

For the Greater Good and for the Good of the United States, I would not mind being pulled over and asked to show identification/green card/ papers, what have you to show that I'm a citizen of the United States.

Brett Michaels

I've been watching this season's Celebrity Apprentice, and have been feeling for Brett Michaels and the charity he is playing for. A couple of weeks ago (on the show), he got news that his daughter might have Diabetes and was scared that she would have to take four shots a day to cope with it.

My mom, Future father in law, and several of my friends are diabetic, so I know about the disease.
anyways, last week, Brett had an emergency appendectomy. and today he apparently had a brain hemorrhage.

Story is here.

My thoughts and Prayers are with Brett and his family

Interesting Tie in with what the Constitutional Crusader has posted....

I found this opinion piece on how the Democratic Party has Broken the 10 Commandments. It really caught my eye after Constitutional Crusader's recent post about the Liberal's 10 Commandments.

How the Democratic Party has broken the 10 Commandments

I found it an interesting read. If you have some time, I highly suggest you take a look.

Greek Game Redone - Session One (and some history)

Well tonight, after a long time of waiting, we were able to, finally, get started on Greek Game.


Greek Game is a brain child of my friend Jester, who started this game way back in 2005. I've been involved with the game since it's start and my Character, Daphne, has gone though MANY MANY changes, mainly because one of the players, Kivan, wanted to be the STAR and to do that, he wanted to be the class Daphne was.


When we first started, Daphne was going to be a bard. Xena was a main influence on my characters at the time and I wanted Daphne to be similar to Gabrielle from the show. However, I was (and still am) New to DnD and I didn't know how to use Bardic Music right (according to Kivan). And instead of letting me learn, he basically rebuilt Daphne where the bard part was no longer involved. Daphne has gone though MANY MANY changes that I can't remember what she was during the multiple rebuilds/restarts of the game at different levels, that finally we settled on Barbarian and she is still that race. Many players left and some joined till the last time we ran game we had Daphne, Lysander, Zotikos, Kivan, Laurel, Gregorio and Aloysis.


Anyways, about 2 years ago, we got an email from Jester, saying that Kivan had hacked into her email accounts and what not and she just ended her friendship with him (He is a major @$$ and I could go on and on about him, but that's not what this blog post is about). She wanted to know who would be willing to continue with game reguardless of Kivan. Since my Fiance and I disliked Ryan and wished to continue without him, we were totally up for it. Unfortunately, life happened and got in the way of all of us to prevent to play game


Now, 2 years after the fact, we have started again, this time at Level 1 (Never in all the restarts did we start at level 1). and the best, it's without Kivan. I was able to build Daphne as Barbarian, and actually didn't have to have anyone build her for me or make corrections, unlike before, when someone built her for me because I was "Too New". and unlike before, I've added werewolf affliction to my character so she has a level adjustment of 2 at first level. ((I'll post her bio in a post in the future))


As I said before, Tonight was the first game. The only player characters currently are Daphne (me), Lysander (My fiance) and Zotikos (Milante) We were all Sacrifices to the Minotaur of Knossos. We have arrived at the palace and are waiting to be thrown into the Labyrinth to be sacrifices to the bull beast. unfortunately we didn't have enough time to actually get out of the starting area so to speak so not much memorable happened to us, only that the "womanizing" Lysander got lucky first game with a serving girl. ((*Daphne in the background groaning in disgust*)).

The best part is, we had fun, more fun, I venture to say, than we have ever had in a session of Greek Game. ((except for the Bull Sh-t moment in one game that Daphne had.... needless to say, coming from a mild-manner shy girl, it was.... memorable))

 Jester is also an artist, Here's a better rendering of Lysander than before (see his pic at bottom of my blog.) She made the comment that this is very fan service-y. And I admit, it is. *can't wait to see how Daphne turns out*

Go British Airways

As we know, we see discrimination in some form or another almost everyday and often times it leaves a sour taste in our mouths. The following story shows us the side of diversity that we are all working for. It is a pleasant twist to see that there are companies and individuals who face discrimination head on, if only one small step at a time. Enjoy reading the positive side of diversity...

I applaud British Airways for their action in this situation. On a British Airways flight from Johannesburg, a middle-aged, well-off white South African lady has found herself sitting next to a black man. She called the cabin crew attendant over to complain about her seating. "What seems to be the problem, Madam?" asked the attendant. "Can't you see?" She said. "You've sat me next to a kaffir. I can't possibly sit next to this disgusting human. Find me another seat!" "Please calm down Madam" the stewardess replied. "The flight is very full today, but I'll tell you what I'll do- I'll go and check to see if we have any seats available in club or first class." The woman cocks a snooty look at the outraged black man beside her (Not to mention many of the surrounding passengers). A few minutes later the stewardess returns with good news, which st delivers to the lady, who cannot help but look at the people around her with a smug and self satisfied grin: "Madam, unfortunately, as I suspected, economy is full. I've spoken to the cabin services director, and club is also full. However, we do have one seat in first class."
Before the lady had a chance to answer, The stewardess continues... "It's the most extraordinary to make this kind of upgrade, however, and I have had to get special permission from the captain. But, given the circumstances, the captain felt that it was outrageous that someone be forced to sit next to such an obnoxious person."

With which, she turned to the black man sitting next to the woman, and said: "So if you'd like to get your things, sir, I have your seat ready for you..." At which point, apparently the surrounding passengers stood up and gave a standing ovation while the black man walked sup to the front of the plane.

People will forget what you said..... People will forget what you did.... but people will never forget how you made them feel.

((I got this story in a college success class. I don't know who wrote it, but I thought people could use some inspirational words in such a diverse world. I originally posted it on my yahoo blog, but since I no longer update that one I wanted to share it again))